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Welcome back, guys! Happy new year! This is my first post in 2019, and I am so excited to share what I have lined up for you guys! Today, I want to share something that has been on my mind lately. This new year, people have really been TRYING IT with this whole dressing thing and what is deemed “acceptable” and “unacceptable”. From having a literal discussion about it to being paged about my “unacceptable” dressing as well (note, it was meant to be a formal style of dressing, and I had a skirt just above my knees). Now, I really wanted to start my year on a positive note. I had poured out most of my hatred for the world in my last post, and I really wanted to start this year with some content that would be about something other than attacking a problematic group of people for once. However, when I tell you guys that some people TRIED IT, as in TRIED IT, they seriously did. Today I am here to tell all of you one simple fact that some of you simply cannot grasp: WOMEN CAN WEAR WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT.
Now, despite the fact that there are basic dress codes in different areas, like the workplace, for example, we can not derail from the sheer fact that many of them are downright ridiculous. For example, the instance I gave earlier. I wish I could insert a picture of what the skirt looks like on me, but to put things in perspective, this skirt only went slightly above my knees, and I am a very short individual. Yes, I am not slim and I do have a bigger butt and bigger thighs than a lot of people, but that skirt looked absolutely decent. Nothing wrong with it. However, a superior in the organisation decided to draw it to my attention that my skirt was too short, urging me to go back and change. Mind you, this is the same person who had told me to change my body con dress in a casual setting, saying that it was inappropriate and “provocative” because men would be there. Provocative. Interesting. After I had called her out on her own bullsh*t and told her that she only wanted me to change to make men comfortable, she backtracked very quickly and said that she did it out of “love”, and I should “dress the way I want to be addressed”. Dress the way you want to be addressed. Like, what does that even mean?
If you didn’t notice at all, this is incredibly condescending. Now obviously I didn’t say much back to this woman because she has already sunk her teeth deep into the burger that is misogyny and patriarchy, and it is absolutely pointless going back and forth with her. However, for me, I refuse to be drawn into that whirlwind. Apart from the fact that there was nothing wrong with the length of my skirt pertaining to the dress code, it was a personal attack: she had a personal problem with my skirt and my dress, and it was very clear and obvious. Let me tell all of you deeply enamoured with the patriarchy: women do not owe you anything, and we certainly do not owe you our dressing styles. Let that sink in. Dress code I agree with, because at the end of the day, it is important to dress based on where you are going; a cooperate society warrants cooperate dressing. However, when it becomes outrageous and very passive aggressive, i’m going to have to give that a big no. I do not owe you anything, and I will wear whatever the actual hell I want, as long as I am complying with the dress code of wherever I am. For a casual setting, I can wear whatever I want. Absolutely and utterly whatever, and you will keep your mouth shut.
However, I know it can be so difficult to just mind your business when you are habitually accustomed to judge or police women for what they wear, so I think I will post another blog telling those that need it how to allow women wear what they want.
“Dress how you want to be addressed”. Screw that. I am a woman with flesh, blood and bone, and I should be treated as such.
Thank you for reading! If you are a woman, can you relate to this? leave your comments down below. Do you disagree with this? Leave your comment down below or send me an email. We can talk about this. We can get through the patriarchy together. Give this a like and follow my blog, as I have very exciting content coming, and you do not want to miss it!